What’s in a Word: Confidence

BH-Children-2006-027Some people seem to have too much of it.  Others wish for more.  It is easy to lose, but not always easy to acquire.  “It” is a feeling called confidence: it exists in the mind that sets a course with a hope and trust in oneself.  Growing up in a home filled with encouragement and guidance helps one develop confidence and self-esteem.  Meeting the basic challenges of life with competence makes a person feel proud, and each success increases one’s confidence.  It is the faith that one has in oneself that helps a person cope with mistakes and unfortunate circumstances.

    What happens to the person who has received little praise or direction, has been abused physically and emotionally and has had her faith in herself destroyed?   Her mindset is filled with doubt and she is unable to change or afraid to try. She often passes judgment on herself that she is unworthy, and losing quickly becomes a habit.  
    Now think what can happen if that person comes to Bethany House?  Just being in a safe, secure and warm environment with people who care can be the beginning of a new level of expansion for self-confidence.  I like to think of it as “planting a garden that you will fill with pride in yourself.”   We at Bethany try to “plant the seed” that helps a person realize that she can have a better life for herself and her children. At Bethany, a variety of workshops are offered dealing with self-esteem, daily tasks and routines, job opportunities, parenting skills, computer classes and individual needs.  Bethany helps to “nurture that little seed of confidence” that begins to grow and blossom into hope and self-reliance. We at Bethany help to cultivate some of the success that is necessary to keep this garden growing.  We hope that when our families leave Bethany, they will all realize,

to quote Dr. Seuss:  
    You have brains in your head. You have feet in your shoes.
    You can steer yourself in any direction you choose.
    You’re on your own and you know what you know.
    You are the guy who’ll decide where to go.    


Jessie Fentnor