Bethany House Connection: September 2023

We Say Farewell to Doug O’Dell . . .

It is with hearts full of deep gratitude that we said farewell to Doug O’Dell, Bethany House’s Executive Director for the past three years.  During his tenure, Doug strengthened the board and its committee structure, and he improved systems of accountability, community connections and the case management process.  He had an open door policy where guests were always welcome to contact him directly to share concerns, ideas and accomplishments.  

Recently we gathered at a luncheon to thank Doug for the passion, commitment, energy and expertise he shared with Bethany House over the past three years.  The delicious catering was donated by Moe’s Southwest Grill of Oceanside, and the Bethany House board members provided desserts.  We wish Doug the best of luck in all his future endeavors!

. . . and Welcome to Katie Swanson

Bethany House is pleased to announce the appointment of Catherine “Katie” Swanson as its Executive Director as of August 28, 2023.

Katie Swanson comes to Bethany House having over 20 years of experience in human services focused on emergency housing in Nassau County.  Katie’s most recent position was as Deputy Director of Emergency Housing at the Nassau County Office of Housing/Department of Social Services (“DSS”).  Katie earned a Bachelor’s Degree from the School of Social Work at Syracuse University, and a Master’s Degree in Clinical Social Work from Adelphi University, Graduate School of Social Work.  Her extensive experience will be an asset to Bethany House in both providing emergency shelter and also transitional services (including financial literacy, women’s empowerment groups, and case worker support) to the women and children it serves, in an effort to end the cycle of homelessness.

We look forward to learning from and growing with Katie as we continue to serve the needs of women, and women with children, experiencing homelessness in Nassau County.

Starbucks Staff Pour Out Their Hearts

In addition to pouring coffee and serving customers at local Starbucks stores in the community, many of the partners (employees) have been pouring out their hearts about Bethany House.  They have the ability to choose local worthy causes they would like #TheStarbucksFoundation #NeighborhoodGrants to donate to.  Bethany House was selected not once, but twice, by the partners in the Starbucks locations in Levittown and Rockville Centre!

These two friendly faces (flanking our Interim Assistant Executive Director, DawnMarie) surprised us at our office with cookies and a thank you balloon to inform us that Bethany House is the recipient of a $6,000 grant!  The previous month we received a visit from another Starbucks partner bearing coffee and mugs, followed by a check for $4000.  We are incredibly grateful to the Starbucks partners for supporting our mission and to The Starbucks Foundation Neighborhood Grants!

High Schooler Hosts Comedy Fundraiser

Kate Cooney, a Kellenberg H.S. junior, has been conducting arts and crafts activities in our homes for the women and children for quite some time now. This summer, she organized a fundraiser at the Governor’s Comedy Club in Levittown to benefit Bethany House. It was a huge success, and Kate and her family were able to raise $4,500 to donate to Bethany House.

Summer Toys

Mackenzie Malone ran a drive for Bethany House at The Garden School in Jackson Heights. The students raised $1,475.00, and collected beach toys for our residents.  Summer fun for the children at Bethany House was enhanced by Mackenzie and her school’s generosity.

Call for Veggies

As we all struggle with inflation and rising food costs, Bethany House has been lucky to be the recipient of vegetable and fruits grown at Crossroads Farm in Malverne, in the gardens at Temple B’nai Torah in Wantagh and the Merrick Jewish Center. All produce is shared among our five residences. Food U.S. assists in the delivery of the veggies from the Merrick Jewish Center, and has been delivering food to us for several years now.

Providing nutritious meals is a top priority at Bethany House. If you or someone you know would like to become a monthly fresh produce donor, contact us today at info@bhny.org.

Thank you to all of our wonderful supporters!

Bethany House Connection: June 2023

Peace, Love, Pickleball!

Frank Millilo of Long Island Pickleball Pros held the 3rd fun and successful pickleball fundraiser on March 5, 2023.  Over 45 people showed up to the event benefitting Bethany House.  The day started with a pickleball clinic for beginners followed by a tournament.  Ping pong and cornhole were also available and all attendees got a swag bag! Thank you to Frank and all who came out  for the fun! 


20th Annual Fashion Show

On March 15, 2023, Bethany House held their 20th annual fashion show.  Over 200 guests attended to support the organization and enjoy a night of fun and fashion.  

To mark the milestone anniversary of  the event, the organization chose fashion show models who are outstanding members of the local and Bethany House community.  The evening started with cocktails, followed by dinner and a the main event, a fashion show sponsored by Bloomingdales in the Roosevelt Field Mall.

 Bloomingdale’s supplied beautiful fashions for our amazing models; Shira Benedetto (www.shirapsychicmedium.com) , Teresa Little (Bethany House employee), Lisa Lowe (www.simplefinefoods.com), Kia Moore (Bethany House Board Member), Kerry Punzi (www.shopthegiftologist.com) , Gloria Romanowski (Local Daniel Gale Real Estate Agent), Vicki Rhodes (Bethany House Volunteer and Supporter), and Lisa Umansky (www.polkadotpoundcake.com).  The models during the fashion show were dressed in a range of outfits from a pajama set, to a glitzy evening gown.  

Thank you to all who participated and supported the event- we already can’t wait for next years event!


Dancing for Donations!

Bethany House was the fortunate recipient for The American Ballet Studio in Bayport’s fundraiser.  Artistic Director Kathleen Kairns-Scholz organized the fantastic event which was held behind the studio.  From admissions, raffles and a 50/50 raffle, the event raised a great amount for our organization.  Bethany House Assistant Executive Director, DawnMarie Goins attended the event on behalf of the organization and was overwhelmed by the talented students and their generosity, hospitality and support.   


Going for Gold! 

Genevieve is a lovely young woman who donated her time at Bethany House to earn her Gold Award with the Girl Scouts Council of Greater New York. She first reached out to us in August 2022, and from that time forward, until she completed her project, she worked diligently to raise awareness amongst her peers and in her community to the issue of homelessness in Nassau County, New York.

Genevieve spent many hours in our homes, engaging with and serving our guests. She also
volunteered at our 2022 holiday party and at two events this year — our annual pickleball
tournament fundraiser and our annual fashion show. In addition to the time Genevieve spent
in our homes and at our events, she also created a social media page dedicated to bringing
awareness to the problem of homelessness and the mission of Bethany House. Additionally,
she organized and managed an extremely successful drive to collect many needed items for
our homes.  

Her project work won her the “It’s Your Time to Shine” Scholarship for the great work she did with us. Genevieve, in turn, donated the monies back to  Bethany House.  Thank you and congratulations, Genevieve!


It takes a community.

Written and posted by Stop and Shop

It takes a community.

As Executive Director Doug O’Dell explains, “What I love most about Bethany House is that it is a place where the people of Nassau County come together to support their neighbors in need…the people who work here are committed, and the people in our community are just amazing.” Stop & Shop has supported this nonprofit organization through the its Community Bag Program.

Tell us about Bethany House of Nassau County.

Bethany House has been around for about 40 years, and our mission is to provide emergency shelter to women, and women with children, who live on Long Island. But we work primarily with those who come from Nassau County.

Bethany House started when a family lost their home due to a tragic fire in a local community on the south end of Nassau County. A local group of Dominican Sisters approached the fire department and asked how they could be of help. They learned that this family had no place to go, so they took that family in, and that was the start of Bethany House.

The Dominican Sisters saw that it was a good fit for their mission to provide services to people who were homeless, and they decided to embark on the journey of providing shelter for homeless women and their children. They purchased a home in Roosevelt, New York, and opened up a shelter for about a dozen women and their children, known as Bethany One. Bethany House continues to provide services at that location.

The need in Nassau County for services for homeless women and children continued to grow, and Bethany House responded to that need. A board of directors was developed, staff was hired and Bethany House expanded from one emergency shelter to a second that became known as Bethany Too, also in Roosevelt. And then, they opened up a third shelter in Baldwin, known as Bethany South. All three of those homes are in operation today.

Bethany House works in partnership with the New York State Office for Temporary Disability Assistance and the Nassau County Department of Social Services. But our main objective is to provide a warm and welcoming home to those in an emergency situation.

We provide food, clothing and shelter in a warm and welcoming environment and one in which women who have experienced various kinds of trauma can begin to heal. We help them to stabilize their children and their family.

One of the things that we’ve noticed as we’ve served people over the last 40 years is that sometimes it’s not their first time experiencing homelessness. And so, we began tracking the people who are coming into our program and talking to them about their experiences.

We learned that the average person coming to us for emergency shelter had experienced homelessness three times before. And often, it has been an intergenerational problem, meaning they first experienced homelessness as a child with their parents. Then when they became parents, they experienced it again and yet again.

We started to think a lot about identifying the underlying causes that drove them into homelessness. So obviously, income is a significant factor. Plus, Nassau County is a tough place in terms of housing. And we started to look at what we could do to ensure that people had a sustainable income when they left us.

Yes, we can help them to find housing, but if they don’t have the ability to stay in that housing, then we’re going to see them again. And as much as we love our guests (which is how we refer to our clients) and care about them, we would not like to see them again in our emergency shelter. We want to see them move on to a sustainable lifestyle, one in which they find security and acceptance and a welcoming community in a setting where their children can prosper. These women aren’t necessarily from abusive relationships; it’s just that they find themselves homeless, and there’s no one reason. But probably the most common issue outside of income instability is that they have experienced trauma in their childhood and adult life. So, we’ve done a lot of work, in the last several years, to help them address those issues.

We want to see them move on to a sustainable lifestyle, one in which they find security and acceptance and a welcoming community in a setting where their children can prosper.

What services do you provide?

We’ve created a continuum of care that we call a three-step approach. In this approach, the first thing that we do is provide emergency shelter, which is designed to meet the basic human needs of the women and the children that we serve in a warm, homelike environment in their home county of Nassau. During this first step, if any of our guests are experiencing health issues, we help them to resolve them whether physical, emotional or mental. We want to make sure that kids are enrolled in an appropriate education program, and we want to definitely make sure that everybody is very safe in one of our homes.

Our homes are typical family homes in lovely Nassau County communities where we don’t have a sign hanging outside that says this is a shelter. From the curb, our houses look like any other home in the neighborhood. When a child gets off a school bus, they are not walking into a motel or a large congregate facility. They’re coming into a home that looks like any other home on the block. Our houses fit into their neighborhood in a way that’s comfortable for the people living in the neighborhood but also comfortable for our guests.

We’ve thought carefully about what one sees when entering the front door, which would say this is a warm and welcoming place. When you come in, you’ll walk into an inviting foyer;  you’ll see a living room, you’ll see a dining room where people eat family style, and then you would be taken to a bedroom or two, that you and your family would share depending on the size of your family. Every bedroom is equipped with Wi-Fi and a TV. There’s appropriate furniture, and we provide a Chromebook or laptop so they can communicate socially and with potential employers and kids can do their homework.

During step two, we provide transitional services to all of our guests. We’re giving people the opportunity to enroll in school, whether it’s college or a GED program to get a high school diploma. Most importantly, we have developed partnerships with Nassau County Community College with several employment training programs. Women have the opportunity to participate in a program that will drive them towards career-oriented employment with income that will allow them to sustain their families in the community after they leave us. We provide trauma-based services, in-house and through community partnerships.

Essentially, step two encompasses opportunities for advancement, after we’ve taken care of your basic human needs.

Step three involves moving forward. In Baldwin, NY, we are poised to open a transitional living facility, and we have several supported apartments available in Bellmore. We will provide people with the opportunity to move into our transitional housing free of public support. We have private funds for operating this program in place right now, though we would welcome public support for this initiative. It’s specifically for a woman starting a new job and who needs to save money to get her security deposit, maybe make a small down payment on a reasonable co-op or condominium or save money for a car.

But it’s also there for women who want to continue their education or complete an employment training program, and there’s no time set on that. It’s about setting goals and achieving those goals. For example, we would agree with the participant in that program to house and support her for the next six months or year. During that time, she can take that next step in her education, finish that employment training program, find her feet and a new position and save some money. And then, we would help her move into a supportive housing environment or a totally independent living environment.

We want them to be a success, and we really don’t want to see them ever having to come into a shelter again. So, we have a fourth step that we haven’t formalized yet: stay in touch with them after they leave our programs. One of the things I noticed when I arrived here two years ago, was that we were getting calls from people six, seven or eight months after they left us, where everything had fallen apart. They lost their job; they couldn’t pay their rent. So, we are now providing aftercare services to the people who have been with us to make sure they stay stable in the community.

Tell us a story that illustrates the good work you are doing.

We had a young woman with two children, eight and nine years old, experiencing repeated homelessness, but she has great learning potential. We helped her to enroll in a college program. And then we supported her. We made sure that she had a computer, the right financial aid, extra money for books, and we supported her while she was going to school. At the same time, we also ensured that her kids were getting an appropriate education.

But there’s only a limited time that you can stay in an emergency shelter. While she was with us, we knew she needed to move out of the shelter, so we helped her locate and secure an apartment, a part-time job and the right support from the county to maintain her family while she finished her education. She’s gotten through two years of college and is working on her third year, and she’s living out in the community.

What is your greatest achievement or contribution to the community?

What I really love about Bethany House and working here in Nassau County with the Nassau County Department of Social Services and our many community supporters is that we help people stabilize in Nassau County. I ran shelters for many years in New York City, and if the shelter was in The Bronx, for example, the only apartment available might be in Staten Island or Brooklyn. So, the clients would need to be uprooted, and their kids were uprooted from their community and schools.

When somebody leaves our shelter, they find an apartment locally, and often their kids don’t even change schools. They stay in the same daycare center. They attend the same church or mosque. All of this leads to family stability.

What I love most about Bethany House is that it is a place where the people of Nassau County come together to support their neighbors in need. In these times when people find so much to disagree about, Bethany House becomes a place where people from all political persuasions, different backgrounds and different economic levels come together to circle around the families we serve. Here, people seem to find their better selves, and we are so pleased to be able to provide that opportunity.

Yes, we help people meet their basic human needs, but we’re so much more than that. We want people to become everything that they have the potential to be.

We want people to become everything that they have the potential to be.

How will you use the funds raised from the Stop and Shop Community Bag Program?

When we receive donations, we try to use them as much as possible to support our guests directly. For example, donations are used to buy school supplies, school uniforms, or Uber and Lyft cards so people can get to their appointments. Donated funds are used for transportation, clothing or personal items. I want to assure people that their donation has helped people directly.

Is there anything you’d like to add?

We find it really important to create situations where families can reunify. A woman may come to us after she has been separated from her children. We do everything in our power to help her regain custody of her children and move them into one of our family shelters. We’re all about family reunification and permanence, meaning they stay together permanently, that they’re in a permanent, stable residence and that they become a productive member of our county.

Our success is tied to the people who live in Nassau County. As I said, we have extraordinary support from businesses, government, and most importantly individuals. Last year, a couple walked in here during the holiday season with about 40 bags full of new clothes and toys. They said they have been so fortunate that they wanted to extend this to other people. They decided that instead of giving themselves and their family gifts, every year they planned to come and bring gift bags full of things that the women and children here need. The people who work here are committed, and the people in our community are just amazing. That’s what makes Bethany House special.

From our house to yours: March 2023

A common theme in my reflecting on the happenings here is how Bethany House, on a daily basis, experiences neighbors helping neighbors.  Blue Waters Boutique has been providing birthday gifts, clothing, Chrome Books and dinner donations to  our guests for many years now on a regular basis.  Not only is their support monumental to our guests, but so is their passion.  This month, I’d like to share a message about the passion behind our neighbor Blue Waters’ involvement with Bethany House.   

“Bethany House is more than just a women’s shelter; it’s a bridge for women to crossover to find peace, success and a bright future on the other side. This “bridge” is perpetually being built by the selfless team at Bethany House. This team have given their lives to make sure these unfortunate women of society rebuild their lives. 

Before I was a successful business owner, I was a single mom of three children. I was not in any danger, but felt the turmoil of struggling financially, working three jobs and trying to raise children on my own. That experience gave me a heart and passion for women trying to get through life with what has been served to them. Once I became successful within my own business, I knew I had to find an avenue to support women that are in need. I came across Bethany House since they are in my community and asked to meet with them.  

From that first meeting until now, I am always amazed at the love, compassion and pure benevolence of the team working at Bethany House. They are completely committed to guiding these women and children to rebuild their lives. Every time I visit there, I leave with a heart full of life and admiration for a staff so dedicated to the cause at hand; it is perfectly overwhelming. 

Bethany House truly exists to strengthen and assist women and children who are deprived of basic resources. The beautiful home atmosphere they have created where basic living needs are met is to be commended. Bethany House is devoted to working tirelessly to assure and protect the self-worth and self-respect of every individual that enters their program. And for these reasons will I continue to contribute to the success of this venture within my community. I stand behind Bethany House whole heartedly and know they have and will change many lives. “Helping one person might not change the whole world, but it might change the world for one person”.  

~Shannon Drinkwater, Owner, Blue Waters Boutique
Thank you to Blue Waters Boutique and our generous supporters!